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Why I Think #YesAllWomen Is Important And Why I Can’t Relate

I’m sure everyone’s aware of the trending hashtag #YesAllWomen (insert groan here). If you filled that groan, leave now, we can’t be friends. 

These tweets describe the horrors women face constantly throughout their lives, from unwanted groping in public bars to saying “I have a boyfriend” instead of “No”, among many others.

When I began reading some of these tweets, I literally could not believe any of this was happening. This was the kind of stuff you saw in horror films, there was no way this could be real. One of them said something along the lines of “Every woman has a story of being harassed by a man”. But I didn’t? Could it be because of my young age? No, some of my friends were relating to this too. So, what? Then I figured it out. 

Look at any cover photo (this one for example) and what do you notice? A stock photo of beautiful girls. Slim, glowing, smiling, or some in distress to fit the story, yet still looking flawless. They were perfect. 

Then I realized: all these stories that I was reading happened to the pretty girls, the ones that were “allowed” to wear short skirts and bikinis in public. Me? I was just the fat lonely girl that never went out. It was almost humorously ironic, I thought. These authors were in essence perpetuating the very thing they were trying to stop. 

Now don’t get me wrong, I love myself. It took several years for me to figure that out, with the help of movements like this and a wonderful boy by my side, which, although I’m so glad I have him, I’m just now learning that I don’t need him to tell me that. And make no mistake, #YesAllWomen is important. One of my friends said the other day “I’m so glad to see women uniting over something so important, because when we do, we can move mountains.” I agree whole-heartedly, but I’d like to change just a tiny little thing. 

I’m a big gay-rights supporter and I founded my school’s GSA called SAGE (Straight And Gay Eagles; don’t laugh, it was our mascot and I thought it sounded cool). We got invited to the annual Oklahomans for Equality Gala, which raised money for the said 5th largest gay community in the world. I opened it up to a couple people outside our group that I knew supported this kind of thing and I was shocked to find out that our “token gay” did not want to attend. “I don’t really like the whole “pride” thing,” he said, “I think it should just be about equality.” 

That totally rocked my whole perception of what I thought I knew about human rights. From that day on, I changed my idea of gay rights, women’s rights, etc. to just people’s rights. Because feminism isn’t just about empowering women; it’s about empowering the equality between men and women. So instead of just letting women move those mountains, how about we all pitch in?

proudly-pro-choice:

You are not a bad person for getting abortion, it doesn’t matter if:

  • you were assaulted
  • your birth control failed
  • you weren’t on birth control at all
  • there is a medical issue
  • you don’t want children
  • you already have children and can’t handle another
  • you aren’t ready
  • you don’t want to be pregnant

You are never a bad person for needing an abortion. There is nothing wrong with you. Don’t ever let anyone tell you otherwise.

You are not alone.

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